It’s incredibly easy to fall in love and pretend to stay aloft in that glittering state. But how do you know when the time shows the other’s true colors? When you love someone, especially when they are hurt or down, that is the time when someone who truly loves you reveals their true intentions and inner self.
Do they feel for you? Or do they cut you off and shove you into a box? Do they work with you to resolve and conquer? Or do they simply try to cut you down with mean words to make themselves feel better. If you truly love someone, deeply hurting should be the farthest thing from their minds; yet we find ourselves stuck in relationships where one person preys on the other. How does that make a person feel? Why don’t they stop and see the damage they are inflecting?
Easy, they simply do not care about you.
You have become nothing more than a thing to fill a void. When tensions rise, they don’t see the need to untangle the knots, only to cut the cord and run. These are toxic people and sometimes they can display themselves as cures. Do they secretly parade themselves around? Demand attention and obedience? Do they shoot you down, one tiny negative comment at a time? Often the more damaging people are the ones who pretend to be the most patient and understanding. They want people to see them as them as the victim when fights break out, they want people to believe they can never be capable of hurting or misdeeds.
These same people will cling to an individual and suck their life out. They will break that person’s spirit slowly; nipping at their resolve until they too must cling for assurance. Once the person has become broken, they will slowly pretend to stitch that person back to greatness, claiming they provided all the necessary elements that broken person needed to survive. They will give you love, affection, gifts and faux patient. Do not be fool. When this person decides it fit, he or she will begin to unstitch those laces. They will watch you unravel, your despair will be their high and they will continue to do it until you are once again broken on the floor. When you become too much of a burden, they will cast you out. Ignore you. You will cease to exist to them until they feel you have suffered enough, and then they knock you back down. Over. Over again. One blow after the after. They know how to hurt you.
They want to hurt you.
Is this really love? Can someone who truly, whole heartily love another possible do this?
This person is only with you to fuel their own needs, and yours are simply an added expense they need to occasionally pay. How long will you survive in this environment? Think about this. How long until your too broken. You can find happiness. You can leave just as easily as they person casts you out. You just need the strength.
Courage is the ability to forget the familiar. Always reminder that.